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Chivalry is Not Dead: Learning to Let a Man Take Care of You

GaylordHotelsWhen it comes to life and dating, there are so many mixed messages black women get from various places. We are taught at a very young to be strong and self reliant.

A lot of us carry that mentality into every facet of our lives, but we are rarely taught how to be taken care of. It is foreign to most career black women who spend their lives “handling it” to allow a man to take care of them.

Black women have the hardest time learning to be independent and dependent at the same time. On one hand, we  don't want or need a man to do anything, but then we want to be taken care of emotionally.

But here’s a secret, most men want to take care of you. For them it’s their manly duty to treat a woman they like with...

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VIRGINITY TODAY: WHY WAIT?

VirginAt twenty two years old, I feel somewhat like an anomaly in society. I still don’t have a driver’s license, I prefer the company of my stuffed blue monkey than real people, and I’ve never had sex. That’s’ right; I’m a twenty two year old virgin.

The main reason for my momentous decision to abstain from premarital sex derives from spiritual beliefs. I think my body is sacred, and only my future husband should be allowed to share a physical union with me (wherever he is, he can...

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Do You Suffer from Relationship Identity Crisis? Who Are You When You Become Involved

BlackW2Women are relationship strategists. We spend plenty of time and money learning how to perform (or how not to perform) in relationships. Case in point: Remember Think Like a Man, the box office smash hit based on Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, grossed more than $100 million worldwide. Black women we need to face the music –we love being in relationships but many of us need help on how to cultivate successful unions. Many of us may suffer from RIC, Relationship...

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Does a Strong Black Woman Make a Black Man Weak?

ABC After my best friend got a promotion, he complained to me about some of his superiors, who happened to be Black women. He felt as if they always went out of their way to disrespect him. Maybe they felt threatened, as if my friend, who is a Black man, didn't deserve his position or their respect.

Can a strong Black woman make a Black man weak? This is a question for all of us in the community to ponder. For those of us concerned about destroying false or dangerous perceptions in order to...

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Bikini Season Is Almost Here: Are you Ready?

fitnessAs we look ahead past April showers and May flowers, the hot summer sun and beach-filled days will be here before we know it. But with it summer brings the harsh reality of bikini season.·

Ladies, this summer don’t you want to be able to strut down the beach and know you’re being noticed and then noticed again when onlookers do a double take? Don’t you want to wake up each morning, look yourself in the mirror, and say, “Dang, I look good”? Luckily, you still have a few months to...

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Can You Pull Off A Starting Five? When Women Try to Date Like Men

MenInSuitsWhile recovering from an especially difficult breakup recently, I enlisted the ear of a friend and former classmate of mine. Fun and fabulous in many ways (and a little older and wiser than I) my friend listened as I shared with her the demise of my relationship.

“Honey, “ she sighed after hearing my story, an account she seemed to have heard many times, “What you need is a Starting Five.”

Starting who?

Starting Five. Noun. Definition: A steady roster of romantic partners...

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Is Interracial Dating a Matter of Economics?

heidi-and-seal-and-david-and-imanAt the risk of beating a dead horse, ladies, I’d like you to consider the following when discussing the topic of interracial dating:Black men and women choosing partners outside their race is not a matter of attraction or chemistry or a taste for the “forbidden fruit.” Sometimes it’s not as deep as the manifestation of some deep-rooted psyhological complex.(Thankfully) the answer is much simpler: The joining between the races is an issue of economics above all else.

Given the fact...

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Be In Tune with Your Intuition: That Little Voice Inside Your Head Is Probably RIght

black_women_relaxing2How many times have you wished you had trusted your intuition?  We have all had a hunch or that of that sixth sense, but how often do we use it?  Time after time, we have all been in situations where our instinct tried to help guide us in situations  but most of us have ignore these random feelings only later to find out there were not random at all.  From cheating boyfriends to career options, something inside of you has always known best, but you never acted upon it...

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Black Women On the Down Low

BlackCoupleFor many, the increasingly familiar term, “Down Low” conjures an image of a married Black man who dabbles sexually with other men, his wife unsuspecting.  In recent years, countless magazines, blogs, radio shows and other media outlets have discussed the supposed phenomenon ad nauseam.   In 2004, even The Oprah Winfrey Show introduced millions of viewers to the controversial lifestyle, disclosing the details of what then was a little known happening.  For...

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